My granddaughter really surprised me the other day when my hubby and I were taking her back to her mom's house. Grandpa was telling her how much we loved her and asked her if she understood that. He has said that to our children and me for years and it is part of his everyday conversation...he just wants to make sure he tells his loved ones that he loves them. But when our granddaughter asked if we would alawys be her grandpa and grandma were we a little stunned. "Of course!" I told her and then explained how her daddy is our son and we will always love him and that she is his daughter which makes her our granddaughter and that we will always love her.
She thought about it for a moment than said that she had some grandparents for awhile but now they aren't. You see her mom remarried and then divorced so those step-grandparents are no longer in her life. Her older brothers have different grandparents and we were once considered their grandparents but now we aren't. Her mom has a new boyfriend and well....they may become her new grandparents. Whew! Life is complicated!
I wondered if her daddy thought the same thing for by the time I had married my my hubby, I had divorced my son's father and remarried only to divorce again. Life didn't turn out like I thought it would. But now I have been married for over 28 years and I think it is being committed through thick and thin and allowing each other to mature along the way, taking the good, the bad and the ugly with a grain of salt. For me the most important thing is having a relationship with Jesus that sustains you when you think you will fall apart.
But our granddaughter and grandson do have 2 sets of grandparents that have been married for a long time. Her maternal grandparents have been married close to 40 years and her great-grandparents have been married for over 65 years, so they do see that marriage can last if you persevere. She knows her mama and daddy will always be there for her and I want her to know that we will never leave her or forsake her. I want her to know that Jesus will never leave her or forsake her. She tells me she loves Jesus and that she wants to know more about him. What an opportunity to teach her about her Creator and Lord.
3 days ago